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Values for a Secure Marriage Grounded in Faith

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Marriage is a sacred covenant established by God Himself, designed to reflect the union between Christ and His Church. The significance of building a strong and lasting marriage cannot be overstated. It is through the bond of marriage that couples are called to grow together in love, faith, and mutual support, becoming catalysts for each other's spiritual growth and transformation. In this post, we thumb over key elements in building a marriage that honors God and stands the test of time.

Submit to One Another Out of Reverence for Christ

Prioritize God in Your Marriage: Prioritizing God in your marriage is paramount, as it establishes a strong foundation built on faith, love, and spiritual unity. When God is at the center of your relationship, His wisdom and guidance shape your decisions, strengthen your bond, and infuse your marriage with purpose and meaning.

  • Start each day with prayer together as a couple.
  • Attend church and engage in spiritual activities together.
  • Seek guidance from teachings on marriage and relationships.

Strengthen Communication and Transparency: Healthy communication and transparency are essential pillars of a thriving marriage, fostering trust, understanding, and emotional intimacy between partners. By openly sharing thoughts, feelings, and concerns, couples build deeper connections and navigate challenges with empathy and respect, laying the groundwork for lasting harmony and mutual support.

  • Practice active listening and empathy towards your spouse. 
  • Schedule regular times for open and honest communication. 
  • Be transparent with each other about your thoughts, feelings, and concerns.

Amplify Unconditional Love and Forgiveness: Cultivating unconditional love and forgiveness in your marriage creates a safe and nurturing environment where grace and compassion abound. By embodying Christ-like forgiveness and embracing unconditional love, couples can overcome conflicts, heal wounds, and strengthen their bond, fostering a relationship grounded in grace and mutual acceptance.

  • Embrace the Biblical concept of agape love in your marriage. 
  • Practice forgiveness as Christ forgave us.
  • Let go of grudges and past mistakes and shift focus toward reconciliation and growth.

Serve and Support Each Other: The importance of serving and supporting your spouse lies in embodying the selfless love modeled by Christ, fostering mutual respect and appreciation within the marriage. By prioritizing your partner's needs above your own and offering unwavering support through life's challenges, you not only strengthen your bond but also create a foundation of trust and unity that sustains the relationship through every season.

  • Look for opportunities to serve your spouse selflessly. 
  • Encourage and uplift each other in times of need. 
  • Work together as a team to overcome challenges and achieve common goals.

Prioritize Quality Time Together: Prioritizing quality time as a couple strengthens the bond between partners and enhances intimacy in the marriage. By setting aside dedicated moments for meaningful connection and shared experiences, couples deepen their understanding of each other, create cherished memories, and nurture a relationship that thrives on mutual love and companionship.

  • Schedule regular date nights and meaningful activities as a couple.  
  • Disconnect from distractions and focus on each other during quality time. 
  • Make time for shared interests and hobbies that strengthen your bond.

Establish Boundaries and Commitments: Establishing boundaries and keeping commitments in your marriage is crucial for fostering trust, security, and respect between partners. By clearly defining expectations and honoring promises, couples create a framework for healthy communication, mutual respect, and emotional safety, sustaining a strong and resilient relationship built on trust and accountability.

  • Set healthy boundaries to protect your marriage from external influences. 
  • Agree on mutual commitments and priorities within your relationship.
  • Honor your vows and remain faithful to each other in all circumstances.

Seek Guidance and Support: Sometimes seeking guidance and support for your marriage is vital for navigating challenges and nurturing growth as a couple. Whether through counseling, mentorship, or spiritual guidance, reaching out for help demonstrates humility and a commitment to the health and longevity of your relationship, allowing you to draw wisdom and encouragement from trusted sources as you journey together.

  • Surround yourselves with a supportive community of fellow believers.
  • Seek counseling or mentorship from trusted Christian leaders or couples.
  • Be open to seeking professional help when needed to address marital issues.

Love Always Protects, Always Trusts, Always Hopes, Always Perseveres

Building a strong and lasting marriage requires intentional effort, dedication, and reliance on God's guidance. By prioritizing God at the center of the relationship, fostering healthy communication, cultivating unconditional love and forgiveness, serving and supporting each other, establishing boundaries and commitments, seeking guidance and support, and prioritizing quality time together, couples can lay a solid foundation for a marriage that continually grows in love, faith, and unity. 

-Torrance Church of Christ

A Year of Spiritual Discipline

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Wishing you a joyous New Year, dear readers! As we find ourselves on the brink of a fresh beginning, there's the exciting prospect that this year carries the promise of significant spiritual development. Join us today as we explore the idea of dedicating this year to spiritual discipline, a path that assures you to boost your connection with God.

Understanding Spiritual Disciplines

Spiritual disciplines are the heartbeat of our relationship with God. As a deliberate effort to draw closer to Him, they entail various practices that stimulate spiritual growth, ultimately resulting in a more intimate union with God. From prayer and fasting to meditation and study, these disciplines are the tools that sculpt our spiritual lives.

"Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded." James 4:8

Setting Spiritual Goals for the Year

Take inventory of your current spiritual practices. What has been the focus of your faith? Are there disciplines you wish to explore further? What aspects of your faith do you wish to strengthen? Now, take into consideration the diverse array of disciplines such as prayer, fasting, meditation, study, and service. Consider specific areas for growth, whether it's a more meaningful prayer life, a greater understanding of scripture, or a commitment to acts of service. Determine how each discipline aligns with your faith and resonates with your unique spiritual needs. Establish your goals, ensuring they are specific and achievable. 

"Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus." Philippians 3:13-14

Developing a Spiritual Discipline Plan
"Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans." Proverbs 16:3

Once you've outlined your goals, it's time to craft a personalized spiritual discipline plan. Consider the practical aspects—when and where will you engage in these disciplines? How can you integrate them into your daily life? 

With a clear understanding of spiritual disciplines and defined goals, it's time to craft a personalized spiritual discipline plan. Consider the following steps:

Self-Assessment:
"Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Do you not realize that Christ Jesus is in you—unless, of course, you fail the test?" 2 Corinthians 13:5

    • Reflect on your current spiritual practices.
    • Identify strengths and areas for improvement.
    • Acknowledge past successes and challenges.

Goal Setting:
"For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do." Ephesians 2:10

  • Break down broader spiritual goals into smaller, actionable steps.
  • Establish short-term objectives that contribute to your overarching spiritual goals.

Discipline Integration:
"Have nothing to do with godless myths and old wives’ tales; rather, train yourself to be godly. For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come." 1 Timothy 4:7-8 

    • Determine how each chosen discipline aligns with your spiritual goals.
    • Integrate disciplines into your daily or weekly routine.
    • Set aside dedicated time for your practices.

Identify Potential Challenges:
"Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go." Joshua 1:9

  • Take time to identify potential challenges that may arise in your pursuit of spiritual goals.
  • Create a plan to overcome any potential challenges. 

***We go into greater detail about potential challenges and how to overcome them below***

Accountability:
"Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ." Galatians 6:2 

  • Consider sharing your spiritual goals with a trusted friend, family member, or mentor.
  • Establish regular check-ins or accountability sessions to assess progress and provide support.

Flexibility:
"In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps." Proverbs 16:9

  • Recognize the need for adaptability in your spiritual discipline plan.
  • Be open to modifying your plan based on evolving needs and insights.

Reflection and Adjustment:
"Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting." Psalm 139:23-24

  • Regularly reflect on your journey and assess how well your plan is working.
  • Adjust your plan as needed, considering changes in circumstances or spiritual insights.

To make the process a little easier, be sure to download and print these Spiritual Goal Planning Sheets that will help guide you through the process!

More on Identifying Potential Challenges and How to Overcome Them 

Understanding is the first step to overcoming. Acknowledging potential challenges allows you to address them proactively. 

Common challenges include:

  • Time Constraints
  • Distractions
  • Doubts
  • External Pressures
  • Unrealistic Expectations
  • Lack of Consistency
  • Setbacks
  • Lack of Motivation

Challenges are an inevitable part of the journey, but there are practical strategies that can be easily implemented to overcome them. 

+ Ground Yourself in Prayer: In moments of challenge, turn to prayer as a source of strength. Seek guidance, wisdom, and resilience from God. 
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6-7

+ Strive for Consistency, Not Perfection: Challenges often arise when we set unrealistically high expectations. Embrace a mindset of consistency rather than perfection. Recognize that spiritual growth is a gradual process, and small, consistent steps are more sustainable than occasional leaps.

+ Seek Accountability and Support: Engage with a community that shares your faith journey. Seek out an accountability partner or join a support group where you can openly discuss challenges and receive encouragement. 
“Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up." Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

+ Learn from Setbacks: Challenges are opportunities for growth. When setbacks occur, view them as lessons rather than failures. Determine what went wrong, adjust your approach, and use the experience to strengthen your commitment to your spiritual goals.

+ Focus on the Purpose Behind the Goal: Reconnect with the deeper purpose behind your spiritual goals. When challenges arise, reminding yourself of the reasons for your journey can reignite motivation and commitment.
"Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus." Philippians 1:6

+ Celebrate Progress: Celebrate the small victories along the way. Spiritual growth is a journey marked by progress, not a destination of perfection. Share your successes with your community, and let the collective joy inspire and motivate you to continue forward.

Be sure to download and print a copy of Challenge Your Challenge: Scriptural Inspiration to Overcome Challenges and Encourage You to Reach Your Spiritual Goals

Wishing You a Blessed and Purposeful Journey Ahead

As you set out on a year of intentional spiritual discipline, remember that this journey is unique to you. Embrace the opportunity to draw closer to God, utilizing the richness of spiritual disciplines to guide your path. We are excited to hear your goals, experiences, and insights in the comments. Here's to a year of deepened faith, strengthened discipline, and a closer walk with Him.

-Torrance Church of Christ

The Word of God is Revealed to Those Who Know Him

In last week's post (that you can read here), we established that those who are faithful and whose hearts are founded in God’s Words are able to decipher and understand His messages. We shared the following scriptures from the Parable of the Sower that emphasized this point: 

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“Because the knowledge of the secrets of the kingdom of heaven has been given to you, but not to them. Whoever has will be given more, and they will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what they have will be taken from them.”

Matthew 13:11-12

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“But blessed are your eyes because they see, and your ears because they hear. For truly I tell you, many prophets and righteous people longed to see what you see but did not see it, and to hear what you hear but did not hear it.”

Matthew 13:16-17

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He told them, “The secret of the kingdom of God has been given to you. But to those on the outside everything is said in parables”

Mark 4:11

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He said, “The knowledge of the secrets of the kingdom of God has been given to you, but to others, I speak in parables”

Luke 8:10

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To further highlight that Jesus used parables as a way to conceal and reveal:

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Jesus spoke all these things to the crowd in parables; he did not say anything to them without using a parable. So was fulfilled what was spoken through the prophet:

“I will open my mouth in parables, I will utter things hidden since the creation of the world.”

Matthew 13:34-35 

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Jesus is referring to: 

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I will open my mouth with a parable; I will utter hidden things, things from of old—

Psalm 78:2

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This week, we will expand on the mysteries of God’s Word being unearthed.

Mysteries In The Old Testament 

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Let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance— for understanding proverbs and parables, the sayings and riddles of the wise

Proverbs 1:5-6

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Throughout the Old Testament, God reveals His mysteries to those who follow His law. Only His most righteous followers were granted special authority to receive revelation so that they could teach and spread His word. 

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Surely the Sovereign Lord does nothing without revealing his plan to his servants the prophets.

Amos 3:7

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The secret things belong to the Lord our God, but the things revealed belong to us and to our children forever, that we may follow all the words of this law.

Deuteronomy 29:29

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The individuals who hardened their hearts toward God were unable to comprehend the vital implications of the law. 

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Son of man, you are living among a rebellious people. They have eyes to see but do not see and ears to hear but do not hear, for they are a rebellious people.

Ezekiel 12:2

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They know nothing, they understand nothing; their eyes are plastered over so they cannot see,

    and their minds closed so they cannot understand.

Isaiah 44:18

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Chapter two in the Book of Daniel provides an instance where God revealed Himself.  During his second year of reign, King Nebuchadnezzar began having dreams that left him to endure fitful sleep. He reached out to magicians, enchanters, sorcerers, and astrologers in hopes that they could interpret his dreams. The men were unable to interpret the dreams, and the king wanted Daniel and his friends to execute the men. Daniel couldn’t understand the harsh punishment that the king had issued, so he went to the king and offered to interpret the dreams. Daniel was fearful that if he could not interpret the dreams, he and his friends might also be ordered to be executed. So Daniel did what he thought best, and reached out to God:

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He urged them to plead for mercy from the God of heaven concerning this mystery, so that he and his friends might not be executed with the rest of the wise men of Babylon. During the night the mystery was revealed to Daniel in a vision. Then Daniel praised the God of heaven and said:

“Praise be to the name of God for ever and ever; wisdom and power are his.

He changes times and seasons; he deposes kings and raises up others.

He gives wisdom to the wise and knowledge to the discerning.

He reveals deep and hidden things; he knows what lies in darkness, and light dwells with him.

I thank and praise you, God of my ancestors:

You have given me wisdom and power, you have made known to me what we asked of you, you have made known to us the dream of the king.”

Daniel 2:18-23

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Because of Daniel’s faith, God revealed the meaning of the dreams to him. Daniel went forth to the king and gave an interpretation. 

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Daniel replied, “No wise man, enchanter, magician or diviner can explain to the king the mystery he has asked about, but there is a God in heaven who reveals mysteries. He has shown King Nebuchadnezzar what will happen in days to come. Your dream and the visions that passed through your mind as you were lying in bed are these:

“As Your Majesty was lying there, your mind turned to things to come, and the revealer of mysteries showed you what is going to happen. As for me, this mystery has been revealed to me, not because I have greater wisdom than anyone else alive, but so that Your Majesty may know the interpretation and that you may understand what went through your mind.

Daniel 2:27-30

Afterward, the king was so pleased with Daniel and declared:

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The king said to Daniel, “Surely your God is the God of gods and the Lord of kings and a revealer of mysteries, for you were able to reveal this mystery.”

Daniel 2:47

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Daniel’s faithfulness, righteousness, and willingness to turn toward God permitted God to reveal Himself to Daniel. Daniel’s account is just one of many within the Old Testament. 

Mysteries In The New Testament

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For whatever is hidden is meant to be disclosed, and whatever is concealed is meant to be brought out into the open.

Mark 4:22

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The promise that everything hidden will be unveiled is all throughout the New Testament (example: Matthew 10:26-27, Luke 8:17).

But as the hour of His death neared, Jesus began to speak plainly to His disciples. 

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Though I have been speaking figuratively, a time is coming when I will no longer use this kind of language but will tell you plainly about my Father.

John 16:25

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He then began to teach them that the Son of Man must suffer many things and be rejected by the elders, the chief priests and the teachers of the law, and that he must be killed and after three days rise again. He spoke plainly about this, and Peter took him aside and began to rebuke him.

Mark 8:31-32

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Christ taught His disciples so that when His time on Earth came to an end, the Word of God would continue to be taught. 

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At that time Jesus said, “I praise you, Father, Lord of heaven and earth, because you have hidden these things from the wise and learned, and revealed them to little children. Yes, Father, for this is what you were pleased to do.

All things have been committed to me by my Father. No one knows the Son except the Father, and no one knows the Father except the Son and those to whom the Son chooses to reveal him.”

Matthew 11:25-27

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After Christ’s death, the disciples built up churches and the Christian faith. They revealed the mysteries Jesus had bestowed to all who would listen (also see Ephesians 3:3-6, Romans 16:25-26, Titus 1:1-3, Ephesians 3:8-9, Colossians 2:2-3).

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He made known to us the mystery of his will according to his good pleasure, which he purposed in Christ, to be put into effect when the times reach their fulfillment—to bring unity to all things in heaven and on earth under Christ.

Ephesians 1:9-10

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I have become its servant by the commission God gave me to present to you the word of God in its fullness— the mystery that has been kept hidden for ages and generations, but is now disclosed to the Lord’s people. 

Colossians 1:25-26

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Above all, you must understand that no prophecy of Scripture came about by the prophet’s own interpretation of things. For prophecy never had its origin in the human will, but prophets, though human, spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit.

2 Peter 1:20-21

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Through Christ, We Can Know the Truth

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“I have testimony weightier than that of John. For the works that the Father has given me to finish—the very works that I am doing—testify that the Father has sent me. And the Father who sent me has himself testified concerning me. You have never heard his voice nor seen his form, nor does his word dwell in you, for you do not believe the one he sent. You study the Scriptures diligently because you think that in them you have eternal life. These are the very Scriptures that testify about me, yet you refuse to come to me to have life.

“I do not accept glory from human beings, but I know you. I know that you do not have the love of God in your hearts. I have come in my Father’s name, and you do not accept me; but if someone else comes in his own name, you will accept him. How can you believe since you accept glory from one another but do not seek the glory that comes from the only God?

“But do not think I will accuse you before the Father. Your accuser is Moses, on whom your hopes are set. If you believed Moses, you would believe me, for he wrote about me. But since you do not believe what he wrote, how are you going to believe what I say?”

John 5:36-47

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Those who followed the law in the Old Testament were able to receive revelation through God. But once Christ came to Earth, faith in Him and His teachings became the pivotal condition to unlocking the meaning of the scriptures and heavenly mysteries. Christ became the Word, and through Him, we will know the truth. 

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In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made. In him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.

There was a man sent from God whose name was John. He came as a witness to testify concerning that light, so that through him all might believe. He himself was not the light; he came only as a witness to the light.

The true light that gives light to everyone was coming into the world. He was in the world, and though the world was made through him, the world did not recognize him. He came to that which was his own, but his own did not receive him. Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God—  children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God.

The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the one and only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth.

John 1:1-14

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This is good, and pleases God our Savior, who wants all people to be saved and to come to a knowledge of the truth. For there is one God and one mediator between God and mankind, the man Christ Jesus, who gave himself as a ransom for all people. This has now been witnessed to at the proper time. 

1 Timothy 2:3-6

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No, we declare God’s wisdom, a mystery that has been hidden and that God destined for our glory before time began. None of the rulers of this age understood it, for if they had, they would not have crucified the Lord of glory. However, as it is written:

“What no eye has seen, what no ear has heard,
and what no human mind has conceived”— the things God has prepared for those who love him— these are the things God has revealed to us by his Spirit.

The Spirit searches all things, even the deep things of God. For who knows a person’s thoughts except their own spirit within them? In the same way no one knows the thoughts of God except the Spirit of God. What we have received is not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, so that we may understand what God has freely given us. This is what we speak, not in words taught us by human wisdom but in words taught by the Spirit, explaining spiritual realities with Spirit-taught words. The person without the Spirit does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God but considers them foolishness, and cannot understand them because they are discerned only through the Spirit. The person with the Spirit makes judgments about all things, but such a person is not subject to merely human judgments, for,

“Who has known the mind of the Lord so as to instruct him?”

But we have the mind of Christ.

1 Corinthians 2:7-16

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But Sometimes, We May Need Some Additional Support

Even today, God’s messages are concealed. Sometimes, you may have difficulty understanding a certain chapter in the Bible, or you might struggle with relating and connecting to a Biblical event. Don’t let that deter you. Even Christ’s twelve disciples needed some extra explanation to help them discern His messages. 

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With many similar parables Jesus spoke the word to them, as much as they could understand. He did not say anything to them without using a parable. But when he was alone with his own disciples, he explained everything.

Mark 4:33-34

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It is important to note that despite requiring supplemental clarification, the disciples were privileged to receive it. In contrast to those who couldn’t comprehend Christ’s messages, His disciples were able to be taught and understand. In fact, they were eager to understand and learn. There are multiple instances where once in private, the disciples inquired of Jesus to further explain His messages (Mark 10:10, Mark 9:28, Luke 8:9, Matthew 13:36, just to name a few). His disciples needing further explanation emphasize the point that man is imperfect, and we need to lean on God. 

Even after His time on Earth, His disciples continued to seek His guidance.

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Pray also for me, that whenever I speak, words may be given me so that I will fearlessly make known the mystery of the gospel

Ephesians 6:19

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Wrapping Up

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Simon Peter answered, “You are the Messiah, the Son of the living God.”

Jesus replied, “Blessed are you, Simon son of Jonah, for this was not revealed to you by flesh and blood, but by my Father in heaven. And I tell you that you are Peter, and on this rock I will build my church, and the gates of Hades will not overcome it. I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven; whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you lose on earth will be lost in heaven.” Then he ordered his disciples not to tell anyone that he was the Messiah.

Matthew 16:16-20

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Christ is the fundamental panacea to obtaining insight into God’s mysteries. Continue to read your scriptures, attend worship, and pray for the ability to understand. Build your relationship with God, and He will unveil His sacred mysteries to you.