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The Myth of Resolute Faith

With ample passages throughout the Bible referencing the significance of remaining steadfast in faith, there is no question about the absolute magnitude of this call. Irrefutably, having a solid foundation of faith 100% of the time would be ideal, but that is not reality. Life is full of surprises, and being humans, even the most faithful can fall victim to the emotions that arise from unpleasant and confusing situations; potentially causing our faith to falter temporarily. And that is okay. 

Faith is a Process 

We should always strive to nurture our faith and engage in daily practices that sustain faith and help it grow. However, holding yourself to the high standard of embodying unerring faithfulness is—ironically—a failsafe way to ensure failure in addition to many other unfavorable feelings. Faith, by its very nature, is marked by growth, setbacks, and moments of doubt. Expecting perfection can lead to frustration, guilt, and a sense of inadequacy when we inevitably falter. Instead, we must recognize that faith matures through trials, patience, and grace, allowing room for imperfection while trusting in God’s immovable presence and guidance throughout the process.

Biblical Accounts of Skepticism, Reservation, and Indecision 

The Bible is filled with stories of remarkable individuals whose faith in God shaped their lives and the lives of those around them. Even those closest to God, who witnessed His miracles and received His promises, struggled with doubt, fear, and moments of weakness.

Abraham: Abraham's struggle with faith is evident in two key moments where he doubted God's promises. The first occurs when he and his wife Sarah enter Egypt. Fearing for his life, Abraham asks Sarah to lie and say she is his sister, rather than his wife, to protect him from being killed by the Egyptians (Genesis 12:11-13), demonstrating a lack of trust in God's protection. The second instance is when Abraham agrees to Sarah's plan for him to have a child with her servant, Hagar, because they doubt that God will fulfill His promise of giving them a child in their old age (Genesis 16:1-2). 
Sarah: When she overhears the Lord's promise that she will have a child in her old age, Sarah laughs to herself, reflecting her disbelief given her advanced years and the improbability of bearing a child. When confronted by the Lord about her laughter, Sarah denies it out of fear, but the Lord affirms that nothing is too difficult for Him (Genesis 18:12-15). 
Gideon: When God first calls Gideon to deliver Israel from the Midianites, Gideon questions whether God is truly there. Despite being chosen by God, Gideon is deeply skeptical and asks for multiple signs to confirm God’s presence and promise. He first requests that a fleece be wet with dew while the ground remains dry (Judges 6:36-37), and then reverses the sign the following night, asking for the fleece to be dry while the ground is wet (Judges 6:39-40). Gideon's doubt and needed confirmation are commonly seen within the human experience of needing tangible signs to bolster faith.
Moses: Moses' struggles with faith are evident in several key moments in his journey. When God first calls him to lead the Israelites out of Egypt, Moses expresses doubt about his own abilities, questioning, "Who am I that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the Israelites out of Egypt?" (Exodus 3:11). His hesitation continues in Exodus 4:10-13, where he protests that he is not eloquent and pleads with God to send someone else. This reluctance exposes a lack of confidence in himself and God's plan. Later, in Numbers 20:10-12, Moses strikes a rock twice to bring forth water for the Israelites instead of speaking to it as God commanded. This act of doubt and frustration led God to tell Moses that because he did not trust Him fully, he would not lead the Israelites into the Promised Land. 
David: David's struggles with faith and morality are evident in several pivotal moments in his life. One significant instance is found in 2 Samuel 11:2-4, where David, succumbing to temptation, commits adultery with Bathsheba, the wife of Uriah. Disregarding God’s commandments, this moment of weakness and self-indulgence subsequently leads to a series of sinful acts, including the eventual murder of Uriah. In Psalm 13:1-2, we find David openly expressing doubt and feelings of distance and abandonment when he cries out to God in despair, "How long, Lord? Will you forget me forever?"
Noah: Noah's struggle with faith is subtly implied after the flood when he plants a vineyard, drinks the wine, and becomes drunk, lying uncovered in his tent (Genesis 9:20-21). While the Bible doesn’t explicitly state that Noah lost faith, his actions can be seen as a moment of weakness or moral lapse following the immense responsibility and stress of building the ark, surviving the flood, and beginning humanity anew. 
Samson: Samson's struggle with faith is most evident in his relationship with Delilah, as described in Judges 16:15-17. Despite being set apart as a Nazirite dedicated to God from birth, Samson allows himself to be worn down by Delilah's persistent questioning about the source of his strength. Prioritizing his relationship over his commitment to God, eventually, Samson reveals the secret of his strength—his uncut hair, a symbol of his covenant with God. 
Elijah: Elijah’s struggle with faith is vividly depicted after his triumph over the prophets of Baal on Mount Carmel. Despite this great victory, when Queen Jezebel threatens his life, Elijah becomes overwhelmed with fear and despair. He flees into the wilderness and, in his distress, prays to God to take his life, saying, "I have had enough, Lord" (1 Kings 19:4). Elijah feels alone and defeated, Defeated and convinced that his efforts have been in vain, Elijah questions his purpose; failing to trust in God’s plan. In this moment of deep vulnerability, Elijah questions his purpose and struggles to trust in God's plan. However, reassuringly, God gently responds, providing Elijah with food, rest, and a renewed sense of purpose. 

Despite their close relationships with God, these figures struggled with uncertainty, fear, or impatience at various points in their lives; revealing that nobody is immune to lapses of faith. Notably, each of these figures also experienced restoration and continued to play fundamental roles in God's plan. 

The Bottom Line

The good news is that God remains faithful to us, especially during periods when we lack faith. Periods of uncertainty do not disqualify us from God’s love or His plan. Instead, they offer opportunities for us to rely more deeply on Him and experience His grace, rearranging our doubt into strengthened faith over time. Faith is not about perfection, but persistence. 

- Torrance Community Church of Christ

Faith-Focused Beginnings: Traditions for a New School Year

As the new school year approaches, it's the perfect time for families to come together and establish meaningful traditions that incorporate faith into their daily lives. These back-to-school traditions aim to create lasting memories while setting a positive and spiritual foundation for students as they embark on the new year. These practices nurture faith, strengthen family unity, and ensure that God's presence remains central throughout the school year. 

Set a Faith-Filled Tone for the Year Ahead

Prayerful Breakfast: 
Plan a family breakfast with a focus on prayer.

  • Prepare a special meal together.
  • Each family member shares their hopes and prayers for the school year.
  • A parent or guardian leads a group prayer.

Benefits: Strengthens family bonds and sets a spiritual foundation for the year.

Scripture Cards:
Create and exchange scripture cards with encouraging Bible verses.

  • Spend an evening as a family creating colorful cards with Bible verses.
  • Write personalized messages on each card.
  • Exchange cards on the first day of school or include them in lunchboxes throughout the year.

Benefits: Offers daily encouragement and strengthens faith.

Print these to help you get started! 

Family Devotional:
Set aside a night for a family devotional focused on the new school year.

  • Choose a relevant Bible passage to read together.
  • Discuss the passage and its application to the school year.
  • Share individual and family goals for the year.
  • End with a group prayer and a fun activity or treat.

Benefits: Deepens family faith and prepares everyone for the year ahead.

Find suggestions for passages here!

Service Project:
Start the school year with a family service project.

  • Identify a need in your community or church.
  • Plan and carry out a service project, such as a food drive, clothing donation, gathering school supplies for a family/teacher in need, or volunteering.
  • As a family, discuss the experience and the importance of serving others.

Benefits: Teaches the value of service and compassion.

Annual Back-to-School Photo and Prayer:
On the first day of school, capture a photo and pray as a family about the day and the entire upcoming school year.

  • Take a photo of each child on the first day of school.
  • After the photo, gather for a family prayer.
  • Create a scrapbook or digital album to document each year’s photos. 

Benefits: It creates lasting memories and marks special familial milestones.

Back-to-School Family Outing:
Have fun as a family with an end-of-summer hoorah! Plan an outing before school starts. 

  • Choose a fun activity such as a picnic, hike, or visit to a museum.
  • Use the time to discuss goals and expectations for the school year.

Benefits: Builds family cohesion and provides a positive start to the school year.

Personalized Prayer Journals:
Create personalized prayer journals for each family member.

  • Purchase or make journals and decorate them together.
  • Encourage each family member to write their prayers, hopes, and reflections.
  • Set aside regular times to share entries and pray together.

Benefits: Assists personal and family spiritual growth.

Educational Goals and Rewards:
Set educational and spiritual goals with a reward system.

  • Discuss and set realistic goals for each child.
  • Create a chart or visual tracker to monitor progress.
  • Decide on rewards for achieving goals, such as a special outing or treat.

Benefits: Motivates children to strive for excellence academically and spiritually.

Choose from one of these charts to keep track of progress!

We’ve Reached the End (of Summer and this Post)

As the school year unfolds, maintaining these back-to-school traditions can provide a consistent source of encouragement, instill values that last a lifetime, and ensure that your children feel connected to God’s love and guidance. We hope these traditions inspire and uplift your family during this time of new beginnings and that your family’s back-to-school season is filled with joy, growth, and God’s blessings. 

-Torrance Community Church of Christ

When Helping Hurts: Thwarting the Savior Complex

Mark 10:45 affirms, “For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life as a ransom for many.” However, in our earnest desire to help, we can sometimes fall into the trap of the savior complex, where our good intentions lead to unintended consequences. Today we will discuss how we can avoid the savior complex and the importance of serving with humility and recognizing our limitations. 

Defining the Savior Complex

The savior complex is a state of mind where an individual believes they are obligated to save others, often to the detriment of both parties involved. It places an unrealistic burden on us and undermines others' ability to grow and learn. In many cases, this mindset stems from good intentions- a misguided sense of altruism. It may even develop from a genuine desire to help but can quickly escalate into a pattern of dominating others' independence. Psychologically, the savior complex arises from a desire for validation, control, or believing that others are helpless without your intervention. Biblically, this attitude sharply contrasts with the model of service presented by Jesus, who demonstrated that we are called to serve with humility, love, and a recognition of our dependence on God. A  person with a savior complex may inadvertently place themselves in a role that only God can truly fulfill, but rather than seeking to be the savior, Christians are called to be servants and serve in a manner that doesn’t attempt to overthrow God from His responsibility. 

Identify the Telltale Signs

Identifying the signs is the first step in addressing our motives and behaviors, and it allows us to change our approach and help others with humility and respect for their autonomy. 

Signs to watch for: 

  • Feeling emotionally drained or resentful when others do not follow our advice or show appreciation.
  • Feeling disappointed or hurt when others do not express gratitude for our help.
  • Neglecting our own physical, emotional, and spiritual needs while prioritizing the needs of others.
  • Frequently crossing personal boundaries in the name of helping, without considering the impact on others' autonomy.
  • Seeking validation or recognition from others for our efforts, instead of focusing solely on their well-being.
  • Deriving self-worth from helping and assisting others rather than from a healthy and balanced life.
  • A tendency to feel personally responsible for, or constant preoccupation with solving others’ issues. 

Examples of the Savior Complex in Action 

Consider if any of the following examples resonate with you:

  • John frequently advises his colleagues on personal matters, even when they don’t ask for help.
  • Emma volunteers to manage every aspect of a community project, ignoring others' offers to assist.
  • David insists on solving problems his way, dismissing others' input or solutions.
  • Rachel feels overwhelmed and emotionally exhausted because she’s constantly dealing with others' crises.
  • Tom views himself as a martyr for always sacrificing his needs for others, expecting recognition and gratitude.
  • Jessica unconsciously makes her friends dependent on her by always offering to do things for them rather than empowering them.
  • Chris becomes frustrated when the people he's helping don't improve or change as quickly as he'd like.
  • Mary begins to feel resentful towards those she helps, feeling unappreciated and overburdened.
  • Alex takes over projects or tasks from others, believing they can’t do them as well as he can.
  • Megan puts her own life goals on hold to focus on solving other people's problems.
  • Brian sees his friends' problems as his own, experiencing their issues as personally as they do.
  • Peter believes his guidance is always correct and disregards any feedback or differing opinions.
  • Susan commits to helping so many people that she has no time left for herself or her family.
  • James feels guilty saying no to any request for help, stretching himself too thin and becoming ineffective.
  • Sarah constantly seeks out people in crisis to rescue, deriving her self-worth from being needed.
  • Lydia amplifies others' problems to feel more essential in resolving them, escalating situations unnecessarily.
  • Ben guilt-trips others into accepting his help, making them feel indebted and obligated to him.

Biblical Examples of Humble Service

The Bible provides numerous poignant examples of humble service that are in stark opposition to the savior complex. 

The following examples remind us that genuine service involves putting others' needs before our ego, following the example set by Christ Himself:

  • Jesus: He washed His disciples' feet (John 13:1-17) and sacrificed His life for humanity (Philippians 2:5-8) without seeking personal recognition or control.
  • Paul: He tirelessly spread the gospel and cared for the churches (1 Corinthians 9:19-23), enduring hardships with humility and reliance on God.
  • Joseph: Despite being sold into slavery by his brothers, Joseph faithfully served Potiphar (Genesis 39:1-6) and later served Egypt as a wise administrator during a severe famine (Genesis 41:41-44).
  • Esther: She risked her life to save her people, the Jews, by approaching the king without being summoned, demonstrating courage and selflessness (Book of Esther).
  • Ruth: She selflessly cared for her mother-in-law Naomi (Ruth 1-4), demonstrating loyalty and compassion without seeking personal gain.
  • Barnabas: Known as the "son of encouragement," Barnabas generously sold his land to support the early church and mentored Paul (Acts 4:36-37; Acts 9:26-27).

Strategies for Humble and Effective Service

To humbly serve and avoid falling into the trap of the savior complex, consider:

  • Rather than trying to rescue others, turn your attention to empowering them to find their own solutions and strengths.
  • Regularly pray for wisdom and discernment.
  • Establish clear boundaries in your relationships and commitments. Learn to say no when necessary to avoid overextending yourself.
  • Embrace teamwork and shared responsibility.
  • Listen attentively to others' needs and concerns without immediately offering solutions. 
  • Surround yourself with trusted friends or mentors who can provide honest feedback and accountability regarding your helping behaviors.

Most Importantly, Focus on God’s Role

The ability to overcome the savior complex hinges on the ability to shift our focus from ourselves to God. It requires that we recognize and trust His supremacy and will;  relinquishing the drive to serve in an unhelpful manner and allowing God to work through us. Acting as His instruments liberates us to serve with a joyful heart, knowing that our efforts are part of His greater plan to bring glory to His name and spread His love in the lives of those around us.

When we focus on God’s role:

  • We trust that God has a plan and purpose for each person's life, including their struggles and challenges.
  • We seek God’s guidance through prayer, asking for wisdom and discernment in how best to support and encourage others.
  • We acknowledge that God is in control and that our role is to obediently follow His lead.
  • Our goal shifts from fixing problems to pointing others to God, encouraging them to rely on His strength and seek His solutions.
  • We recognize our limitations.
  • Understand that God works in His timing and ways, often beyond our understanding. 
  • We let our actions and motives reflect His love and compassion.

Summing It Up

The savior complex can subtly distort our intentions, leading us to seek personal validation or control rather than genuinely serving others out of love and compassion. Helping others without falling into the savior complex requires a deliberate commitment to humility, self-awareness, and trust in God. As we strive to emulate Christ’s example and surrender ourselves to God’s will, our participation in His work will be founded in love and bring honor to His name. 

- Torrance Community Church of Christ

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